Real life moves in
So I quit my job.
I loved everyone I worked and appreciated their support through this whole process with which made this decision even harder.
I’m one of those people that quits their job because they were unhappy. Am I concerned with money? Yes. Am I concerned with how this will affect my career? Yes. Do I feel guilty that our livelihood is now solely on my new husband’s shoulders? Yes.
Am I going to be better off? Yes.
Older generations are struggling to comprehend how Millennials feels no sense of commitment and no loyalty to the companies that they work for. Being a millennial, I can honestly say that it wasn’t just because of a company or job- it was because I value my home life, arguably my real life, more.
Priorities in Life
My priorities in life are as follows:
- My mental well being and happiness are most important. If I am not taking care of myself, all other priorities and relationships will suffer. This is the foundation.
- My Relationship.
- I am recently married. A (new) marriage takes a lot of work. Because there was little work/life balance, I ended up taking it out on the person I love the most. Working late took precious time away from our time together.
- Between sleeping and working, a couple does not see much of each other during the week. Additionally, my husband takes classes in the evenings 2 nights a week. A marriage should not consist of seeing each other for 20 minutes, while eating dinner at 9:30pm to only go to bed by 10:00pm in order to do it all over again the next morning.
- When I was working late or just not disconnecting from work emails in the evening, I was not present for our relationship. I was distracted and irritated. This left no patience for Maxwell, which strained our relationship. My priority #1 was not in place- which left my #2 priority struggling.
- My Career.
- Social Services. Hmm, Social Services. They are exhausting and without proper boundaries, an individual will never be successful. It’s hard to turn off work at night when there are serious, life altering, issues that your clients deal with. It is easy for a service provider to put all patience and compassion into work and be left with nothing at home.
- Do I want to be in the Social Service arena? Yes. I do love working with people, but I need to find the correct niche for me. This will take time to discover.
Do some self-reflecting
I call on other people to take a step back from their work and really think about the priorities. If money was no object, what would you be doing? Is this not your current line of work- take steps to change the situation you are in. If you are unhappy, come up with solutions.
Life is too short to be apathetic. Be passionate about something- anything. You won’t remember how much money you made, but you will remember the feelings and experiences you had.